Day 613
Although Lilly is a regular at Norbella, today Ranger was my partner. It is fun for the residents and staff to shake up the visits now-and-then, so bringing our Big Boy was a hit!
We started out in Memory Care where our friends are always waiting by the fireplace. The amazing Activities Director has them seated in a semi-circle watching Dog TV, so they are very excited to see a real dog walk in! Today, as they reached out to touch Ranger, they commented on his size (93 pounds of love) and then reminisced about big dogs they had loved in their past. What I noticed most was the smiles...so many genuine smiles that went all the way to their eyes. I am so connected to this group!
Next, we headed to the other side of the complex to visit those in Independent Living. To Ranger's delight, there were dog treats during the second half of the visit. He outdid himself with his favorite tricks...the best being the "whisper bark!" Everyone was beyond appreciative that we had dropped by to spend some time.
Looking back over the morning, I noticed that certain seniors have unique tendencies towards interacting with a dog or human. As I get to know them better, it becomes easier to make each visit more successful.
One doesn't like human touch.
Another likes to have her hands nuzzled.
Someone else tries to grab the collar to bring the dog closer.
A newer resident will cry if certain subjects are brought up.
One lovely gentleman wants to share many of his memories of dogs he has loved.
This list could go on for a long time, but the main thought is: Know your people...know what they need from your dog.
This senior complex is a small version of life itself. "Know your people...know what they need" (from a dog or person). Really getting to know the people we meet is critical to any positive interactions you might have with that person. If you know the individual...really work at KNOWING them...they will open up and experience a meaningful time during a visit. As we connect with people outside of Therapy Dog visits, the same is true. Children, family members, neighbors, work colleagues and any other group you find yourself in, will share their hearts when they feel valued. Using their name, the names of their family members, chatting about their hobbies/interests, asking questions about their occupations (past and present) and any other personal topic will make the other person experience comfort, safety, validation and self-worth.
The trick is to ask just the right questions...at just the right level of interest. The more times I go on Therapy Dog visits, the better my skills of connection become. It is worth it to see the eyes of those we visit light up...because someone truly cares. It also helps to have a big, furry Golden at the end of the leash!
