Day 683

Our Gus is a Fragile Flower. Many things upset him including sirens, sudden movements, differing routines, snow plows and a host of other occurrences. Poor baby! After a few sleepless nights of "Snow Plow Terror," we ordered him a Snuggle Puppy.

Sammy has had his very own "Snugs" since the day we brought him home. These doggy friends can be warmed up AND have a beating heart. Snugs has lost one ear and some fur, but Sam loves that buddy and sleeps with it clutched between his paws. Hence, the addition of an additional S. P. for our Fragile Flower. Although both of them reside in their respective nighttime beds, Gus found comfort with his new friend we now call Flower.

We all seem to have items that calm our fears. My own range in size from large to small, but each holds a place in my heart and speaks to me me when I am in need of some serenity. From my piano to my grandmother's engagement ring, having these items within reach is such a comfort.

Humans can verbalize their fears and seek help from various loved ones. Along with a physical item to hold, friends and family can help alleviate fears with their presence, hand-holding, hugs and words of advice. It has been my humble gift to receive comfort from some of these people in my life. There is nothing like a hand to hold or a hug to be shared when your anxiety level is high.

For dogs, there are a few ways they can let us know they are nervous or frightened. For example, their posture or tail can indicate they need some human intervention. Also, their barks can reveal a world of information. As pet owners, we must be alert to their needs which can only be expressed without words.

Are there others, before our eyes, who send out a private call for help? Being reclusive, lack of eye contact, slumped shoulders and sad eyes can be a silent cry for help. It is a fine line between respecting a person's privacy and attempting to step in and help. One of my mottos has always been, "When in doubt, choose kindness...even if the result proves that it was the wrong move." At least you will feel like you have tried.

It is not always easy to do the right thing (especially if you find yourself in the uncomfortable position of trying to "read between the lines") but it seems to be worth the effort. The worst case scenario might just be the recipient asking to be left alone.

Always err on the side of kindness...you can't go wrong!